A Blogger: I would advise no young man to get married. If the milk is free, why buy the cow? Especially if she’ll destroy your life anytime she pleases.
The big problem in our Am. culture today IS that the milk is too often free. And that has led to our general marital misery –poor marital choices of people who don’t have a lot in common –and beauty fades –and sex and intimacy can only improve in a good marriage. We need Yenta the match-maker and the commitment that comes from faith, tradition, and community. We need to revive our faith communities and live by Tevye’s “good book!” seeing marriage as the foundation of family and community–which it is.
I just watched again the film based on the Broadway musical, Fiddler on the Roof –look at the “papas” and the “mamas” in the story –all having their sense of duty and their “place in the community.” Even the beggar had “his place.” They all know who they are and what they are supposed to do. Golde and Tevye don’t have a good marriage by Christian standards (fruits of the Spirit/Golden Rule standards) but there is no question they know their roles and responsibilities and have no intentions of straying or divorcing.
Not so anymore. We are exploring gender transition and rejecting our traditional gender roles –which are so important to the well-being of children. We don’t wait for marriage to have sex –but sleep with multiple partners –and then wonder why the bonding glue which sex and parenting are to marriage don’t stick anymore!!! Free milk –sex without marriage –ruins the Perma-bond-ability of so many. We are like tape that has lost its adhesion capability. We’re living like animals –i.e. the worst examples in nature instead of the best.
There are good examples in nature –like the Daddy swan who chased me and my little girl guests on our seadoo –He protects his family–puffs up his wings and starts to move menacingly and purposefully toward my seadoo –and then if I start to speed away–he goes faster and faster and rises up out of the water and takes flight with beak aimed to bomb! I didn’t know swans could fly like that. Gave the little girls a thrill and a lesson to remember for a long time –that is, the importance of finding a man with such commitment to his family–and courage to fend off outside evils.
Of course, I don’t mean a man should be hostile –ready to do battle with an encroaching Seadoo driver!