tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1526647904385272392.post3373696674950643444..comments2024-03-29T03:38:18.715-06:00Comments on The Barb Wire: Andrew Solomon's Modern FamilyBarbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05016832868807957194noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1526647904385272392.post-29188763192047454722012-01-07T15:40:45.051-06:002012-01-07T15:40:45.051-06:00You wrote, "Private family life is no one'...You wrote, "Private family life is no one's business but their own." <br /><br />Really? So it matters not if a welfare mother makes 15 babies with 15 men and no support but Uncle Sam? We shouldn't teach against this sort of life choice? It's ok with you if she encourages this for her own kids? And we mustn't teach people to do better than this, because we might offend them?<br /><br />It matters not if polygamist cults are marrying girls against their will and kicking their sons out so the men will have all the young'uns to themselves? We should legalize polygamy? We'll have to if we legalize gay marriage.<br /><br />It matters not what goes on behind family's closed doors even if it IS illegal?? abuse or incest?<br /><br />It matters not if Solomon feels justified in participating in this messy arrangement --so he can raise a child with his boyfriend? depriving that child of his mother in his home? We can't stop this sort of thing --but we don't have to praise it, legitimize it, and say it's none of our business --when i'll bet his lesbians are needing gov't support for their kids. <br /><br />He talked of the inequity of resources for the kids --and the different parenting styles. You have enough of that with one ex and a child --or with 2 parents in the home --imagine the involvement of 6 parents, his, hers, ours, theirs, etc. etc.Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05016832868807957194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1526647904385272392.post-44690516514847404942012-01-07T15:08:52.825-06:002012-01-07T15:08:52.825-06:00There is nothing unattainable about the nuclear fa...There is nothing unattainable about the nuclear family. It should be everyone's goal, mother with father and kids. Granted, some people marry lemons --but the challenge is for all of us to NOT BE lemons! If we heed the church's teachings on marriage and commit to making it work, it can work, you know. Drugs and alcohol, the smoking addiction, and pre-marital promiscuity and multiple shack-ups with pregnancies --none of this is helpful. And the Andrew Solomon experiment is not a viable alternative to these messes that heteros make. <br /><br />We don't need one more guaranteed dysfunctional family arrangment --like Andrew's. Watch this family through the years. It will be interesting. I hope not too sad.Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05016832868807957194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1526647904385272392.post-57798072504849376822012-01-06T18:26:31.762-06:002012-01-06T18:26:31.762-06:00It's one thing to have an irrational fear of m...It's one thing to have an irrational fear of marriage equality, that's your right. But you pick one sentence out of a four page article where the author admits his family comes with unique difficulties and situations. News flash: All families are unique. The whole rest of the article is about how the author has found a sense of purpose with his family, getting married and raising children. Isn't that the very definition of family values? How privileged you must be to have lived in a sheltered bubble where every family has a dutiful mom, an employed dad, kids who excel, and probably a well-behaved dog in a single-family home in the suburbs. That is a nice situation indeed, but rare. Instead of trying to shoehorn everyone into an unattainable cookie-cutter mold, try accepting people for who they are and for the choices they make that make them happy.<br /><br />Private family life is no one's business but their own.The Gaucho Accordionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13887353815823650804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1526647904385272392.post-9982889004890033982012-01-06T14:29:16.946-06:002012-01-06T14:29:16.946-06:00This issue is everybody's business --you proba...This issue is everybody's business --you probably want marriage re-defined. That's the business of all the voters, not just the gays.Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05016832868807957194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1526647904385272392.post-40741548573607812942012-01-06T13:06:13.272-06:002012-01-06T13:06:13.272-06:00Mind your own business.Mind your own business.The Gaucho Accordionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13887353815823650804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1526647904385272392.post-73883807953807868752011-02-08T14:52:21.386-06:002011-02-08T14:52:21.386-06:00Meant to say, "...much larger THAN most of us...Meant to say, "...much larger THAN most of us bloggers get...."Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05016832868807957194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1526647904385272392.post-36562130101635457792011-02-08T14:50:55.361-06:002011-02-08T14:50:55.361-06:00Mudrake commented and I truly accidentally deleted...Mudrake commented and I truly accidentally deleted it. He suggested I take my writing to the Blade letters section--for wider readership.<br /><br />Thanks, Mudly, I've just been too busy to make this post into a 300-word letter as required at the Blade --and they might not print anyone who isn't a subscriber --I've wondered about that. I certainly agree that the readership there is probably much larger that most of us bloggers get --including you.Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05016832868807957194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1526647904385272392.post-49832276191378437722011-02-04T22:47:38.748-06:002011-02-04T22:47:38.748-06:00Indeed.Indeed.Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05016832868807957194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1526647904385272392.post-8259327008097351582011-02-04T16:00:36.246-06:002011-02-04T16:00:36.246-06:00My worry is for the next generation(s), who will r...My worry is for the next generation(s), who will read stories like that and have increasing little to no moral concern for it, no big deal, and flip the page..<br /><br />There's just no shame in this culture of rampant liberal and experimental sexuality.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com